Tuesday, October 27, 2026

It's Not You, It's Me?

Before blaming everyone else at work, ask yourself: Am I the one bringing the drama?

There’s an old saying that states: one finger pointed at someone else means three are pointed back at you.

While not every workplace conflict is your fault, if you constantly find yourself thinking everyone else is the problem, in every place you work, it may be time for some honest self reflection. None of us sets out to be the toxic coworker, but habits like gossiping, dismissing feedback, or always blaming others can create a contentious workplace.

The good news? Self-awareness is a skill, and small changes can help create a workplace where everyone feels respected, heard, and psychologically safe.

6 Signs You’re a Toxic Coworker
1.   You think everyone else is the problem.
2.   You react defensively to feedback.
3.   You gossip instead of addressing concerns directly.
4.   You interrupt or dismiss others’ ideas.
5.   You rarely admit when you’re wrong.
6.   Your coworkers aren’t comfortable interacting with you.

6 Ways to Build a Psychologically Safe Workplace
1.   Listen with curiosity before responding.
2.   Welcome feedback and different perspectives.
3.   Own your mistakes and apologize when needed.
4.   Address issues respectfully instead of complaining behind someone’s back.
5.   Recognize others’ contributions.
6.   Assume positive intent and treat coworkers with respect.

While difficult conversations shouldn’t be avoided, they should be conducted in a manner that encourages people to ask questions, admit mistakes, and share ideas. The strongest teams aren’t made up of perfect people but of people willing to learn, grow, and make others feel valued.

Source: Harvard Business Review

It's Not You, It's Me?

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